How to communicate with your partner before going long-distance
My partner and I started dating when we were 16. For the first year of our relationship we lived in the same city. We went to different schools, but saw each other in the evenings or on the weekends. We grew up together and did high school at the same time.
Then it was summer vacation. We spent every day together, going on dates and relaxing at home. During the summer months we tried to ignore what was coming – which I don’t recommend – I moved 5 hours away and he stayed home. We agreed on a long-distance trip, but neither of us wanted to say goodbye.
talk talk talk!
Before starting the distance, talk about it with your partner. Don’t just push your feelings deep inside. Share your thoughts on your concerns so that you can talk about them as a couple.
This farewell was difficult. I left my partner, my safety net. I remember our hug before I left. It felt so comforting to be held in his arms. I never wanted this hug to end.
I’ve always been an independent person, so the long haul wasn’t difficult at first. I enjoyed having my own time.
As the days turned into weeks and weeks into months, the distance became more difficult. I missed being in his arms. I missed talking to him face to face.
My number one piece of advice for anyone in a long distance relationship is to communicate with your partner. I wish someone had told my 16 year old how important communication is in a relationship.
Both partners in a relationship need to be able to communicate their feelings to each other. If not, no problems will ever be solved, and nobody’s feelings will be heard.
I can’t lie and say that long distance relationships are always rainbows and sunshine. you are tough They take work and commitment.
When I moved I had to learn a lot about communication. We couldn’t talk that much because of our different schedules, and that bothered me. I suppressed my feelings to the point where I worried. After I addressed how I felt, we talked about it. That was it; no fight just a talk about how we both felt.
We were both trapped in our own lives and neglecting each other. We both agreed that we both hadn’t made enough effort to talk to each other and we wanted to change that. We needed to pay more attention to our relationship.
In a relationship, talk about both of your needs. What do you both want from the long-distance relationship?
Think of creative ways to connect
Set a time for daily phone video calls. Talk about your day and have a good time with your partner. Make an appointment with your partner. There are so many ways you can have a date through Facetime. They could cook and have dinner together, watch the same movie, or just talk. Here are 22 virtual date ideas.
Little things can make your partner’s day. Send them good morning and good night, let them know you’re thinking of them all day, send them care packages. The ideas are endless. I can think of so many ways you can make a long distance relationship as normal as possible.
There will be bumps in the road – there are in every relationship. You will experience ups and downs, but you will also create amazing new memories.
Think about when you can finally see, hug and kiss your partner again. Trust me it’s the most amazing feeling. The moment you’re back in your partner’s arms, the long journey is suddenly worth it.
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