Dear Annie: Unsure how to address grandchild’s new pronouns
Dear Annie: I am 60 years old and my husband is 65. When we are out together he stares at younger women in their 20’s. I mean – he stares and stares. I’m very embarrassed and disrespected.
When I tell him what he’s doing, he says I’m lying and that it’s all in my head. He says I have no faith.
Can you please help me? Am I making too much of this? — Ashamed
love embarrassment: Your husband doesn’t respect you. Feeling guilty about not wanting him to grin at 20-year-old women is just plain wrong. You are 100% correct that his behavior is inappropriate. This has nothing to do with self-confidence, but with class and respect. He has to delete that.
Dear Annie: I am a thoughtful, loving grandmother to a handful of grandchildren. Last Christmas, two weeks before their arrival, it was announced that one of the grandchildren had chosen to identify as the opposite sex despite being a minor. We’ve been asked to play on the NEW name!
We’re trying to take care of it. In the meantime, the child has started drug therapy to permanently deepen his voice. Wouldn’t that be considered child abuse on the part of parents allowing their minor child to make an irreversible choice for an adult?
Another question: What young teenager is capable of making such a life-changing decision? – Concerned grandparents
Dear concerned grandparents: Since you are the grandparent and not the child’s parents, your options are limited. You can give the parents your opinion on this, especially your opinion on the irreversible measures. As for the child, embrace them with open arms and lots of love and call them by whatever name they would like to be called.
Dear Annie: As I write about the letter from Grieving Cousin, I want to emphasize that suicide is never someone else’s fault.
Suicide is not the fault of an ex-lover, former boss, or anyone else. We’ve all been sacked, fired, or otherwise snubbed. Although it doesn’t feel good, most people don’t respond by taking their own lives. No one should feel that it is their fault that someone died by suicide.
Similarly, people who die by suicide usually have felt hopeless and depressed for some time. Many have a long history of suffering from depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, trauma, or other mental health problems. It is rarely an impulsive act.
I want to share some accurate, professional resources on suicide:
Suicide is indeed painful for survivors so please take the time to review these resources rather than just trying. — Resources to help
Dear resources to help: Thank you for sharing this information.
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